This is so true and cripples so many who never share their work with the world. Thank you for this simple explanation.

Examining Our Own Toxicity

Toxic relationships — stopping the sick cycle of blaming others for our own shortcomings

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I have been guilty of all the offenses I outline in this article and then some. My intent here is not to sit in the seat of judgment and point the finger of blame down at people. I also realize that those people with extreme cases are likely not going…

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Darkness is light

Lightness is dark

The blackest of ash

Begins with a spark

Pain is joy

Joy is pain

Every great flood

Was once a drop of rain

There is no wrong without right

No big without small

No whisper without a scream

No rise without a fall


And the simple, but not so easy, solution

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Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. — Martin Luther King, Jr.

We as humans all have different cultural, socio-economic, and environmental backgrounds that tend to divide us. There are also many other should-be trivial things that…

A holiday poem for every day

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The magic of Christmas,
Is not just in the day,
The wonder lies deeper,
Than a fat man in a sleigh

The magic of Christmas
Is not under the tree,
Wrapped in red, white and green
It’s inside you and me

The magic of Christmas
Is not one time a year,

Money may not buy it, but love does have a price

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True Love is not free.

We’ve all heard it said many times and in many ways, and have quite possibly repeated it on many occasions, that love is free, love doesn’t cost a thing or money can’t buy love. …

Wake up and make them a reality!

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“Remember your dreams and fight for them. You must know what you want from life. There is just one thing that makes your dream become impossible: the fear of failure.”

— Paulo Coelho

We all have dreams. We all have amazing things that we wish to do with our lives…

Sometimes love alone is just not enough to save your relationship

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As it has been said, ‘love is a beautiful and many-splendored thing’. When love becomes toxic however, matters can shift to not so beautiful and downright horrific very quickly. All of the love in the world will not pull you out of the terrors of a toxic/abusive relationship. …

Prose Poem

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There is a bizarrely familiar and anesthetizing comfort lurking deep inside the sadness and discomfort of a wounded soul; that begs the heart to surrender to its paralyzing grip. The life-piercing pick of maddening malevolence, strums the broken strings of a tattered heart as consciousness begins to evanesce and slip.

Brief thoughts on love, words, and vibrational frequencies

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“Words have a magical power. They can either bring the greatest happiness or the deepest despair.”

— Sigmund Freud

Throughout my entire life,

I have heard people overuse, misinterpret and absolutely adulterate the word love in the English language. Hell, I’ve even been guilty of it myself on multiple occasions. …

Bobby J Mattingly

Author * Poet * Social Media Strategist * Content Creator * Personal Development Advisor * Inspirational Speaker

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