Letting go of Self-Hate

How I went from self-loathing to self-love

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In youth, our blood rises and becomes volatile. Desire, worry, and anxiety increase. External circumstances now direct the rise and fall of emotions. Will and intention become constrained by social conventions. Competition, conflict, and scheming are the norm in interactions with people. The approval and disapproval of others become important, and the honest and sincere expression of thoughts and feelings is lost.

My Self-Destruction And Reconstruction

As previously mentioned, I was full of naive innocence and a strong zeal for loving others in my youth. What I haven’t yet mentioned, is that I was raised in the midst of a constant barrage of unprovoked violence and abuse. As far back as I can remember, violence was an everyday occurrence in my household and neighborhood.

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Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have — life itself. — Walter Anderson

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Self-Love Was My Key To Freedom

I can now see clearly what I couldn’t when I was a child. The love I so desperately sought from others was within me all along. I ran out of love to give others because I was not regenerating it through self-love. I no longer feel the urgency to be accepted by others because I have learned to accept and love myself completely. I have forgiven myself for not knowing how to love myself and have forgiven all who have hurt me for not knowing how to forgive themselves.

I think the most important thing in life is self-love, because if you don’t have self-love, and respect for everything about your own body, your own soul, your own capsule, then how can you have an authentic relationship with anyone else?— Shailene Woodley

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